Thursday, March 16, 2017

Take Stock Of Your Life And Fix Things For Yourself Not Others

Have you ever sat and truly thought about your actions as an adult versus the actions we tell our children to have. Have you ever truly sat, and reflected on your own behavior, your own words, emotions and public displays you show others. That your children see. Then considered the words that come out of your mouth towards your kids when raising them. Most of us teach our children not to follow the heard. Not to beg others to be their friends. We actually say things like "sweety, if they can't see the good in you, then they are not worth your friendship anyway". So many times we have heald and wiped our children's tears, or hugged them after someone has bullied them or broken their hearts. Or even after someone who portrayed themselves as their friends and gotten close enough to feel to them like family. Just dropped them. Most of us but not all of us, usually go as far as to help pull back the reigns on our children as we watch them go into total meltdowns, and they try to beg, claw, and pretty much do anything they can to force their way back into someone that truly was clearly not willing to make the effort to be a good friend.
As adults, we don't take our own advice. Which is truly sad. We keep coffins and urns of already dead friendships and relationships that are just half there. they are not connected or tethered to the other person anymore. You are the only one that still has it tied/tethered to you. You allow the memories that once was, or even what you hoped the making of a new friendship and the creation of hope to happen memories to make you fight for people that have already let you go. Sometimes you must stop and evaluate yourself. Love yourself enough to truly work on you for you. Know that people will be in your life and be active and present in the now in your life if they truly consider you a friend or a value in their life.
Let me say that again so you get it!!!

Did you get that this time? When you go to claw at that dead or on life support relationship. Ask yourself something. How come they have time to give effort to everyone else. To take a moment out of their day to facetime, text, IM, call or whatever so many others. Yet they can not call, text, IM, or even click like on a single comment status or anything of yours. I WILL GIVE YOU A SECOND TO LET THAT MARINATE! OK GOT THE ANSWER? DING! LIGHT BULB! O.K. So now that you see it, and yes it hurts like hell, It hurts like a full body Brazilian wax followed by a charcoal facial peel max being slowly peeled off your face. and having your eyebrows plucked for good measure. then slapped on the ass and told you been charged 300 bucks for the service. "ouch"
So yes it hurts, but guess what. You got clarity now don't you? So when you are talking to your kids you have that passion and you want them to do what is right. But when you look at yourself in the mirror, can you say you are doing what is right for you. Can you say you are doing what is healthy for your inner being as well as your outer being? Fix yourself and your happiness not for me, not for your kids. But for yourself.  Cause the day you can tell your story of the way you once was without shedding a tear. Is the moment you are healed. The day you can wake up and you don't rush to social media to see if anyone reached out to you that you are clawing to, you are healed. The day you just wake up and know that you are doing life for you not to fill a void, or to hold on to memories or dreams of what can me. Then you have fixed you for you.
Trust me that is all I want for anyone in this world. No matter who they are.

Goddess guided me to write this, I am working on me for me. May you find your way to do so too.
blessed be.

Monday, August 29, 2016

What is Mercury Retrograde

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want to give a big thank you to Molly Hall who wrote this guide. 

Mercury Retrograde
By Molly Hall, Guide

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What is Mercury Retrograde?:
This happens three to four times per year, when the planetMercury1 slows down and appears to stop (station) and move backward (retrograde). It's an optical illusion, since there is forward movement, like speeding by a slow-moving train -- as it recedes, it appears to go backward.
I saw this on a road trip, driving alongside a moving train going slower than my little white Subaru -- it really does play tricks with your mind!
While delays and misunderstandings do seem to happen, I've noticed a magical trend -- that people and ideas return, for integration, resolution and more.

Mercury Madness?:
Mercury is the messenger, and in this time, the delivery is warped or the message gets lost en route. Some people find that their computers go on the fritz or phone lines go down. If you're at all jittery about it, go ahead and back up your important files.
There can be delays, so give yourself plenty of time to get places. What happens in those down times? Mercury retro is known to be a time of 'fated' events -- who will you meet? What will be revealed?
A Time-Out:
Mercury retrograde gives us time to catch up with ourselves and reflect. Something from the past returns in a different form. People, ideas or buried insights that are keys to moving forward, float to the surface. Often it's felt as a slowed down, contemplative time, and depending on the sign, a chance to go over old ground again, to claim what you missed the first time.
Err on Side of Caution:
There's a long-held belief that it's best to avoid making set plans during the Mercury Retrograde. This means holding off on signing contracts and forming partnerships and alliances. What gets put in writing at this time may turn out to need serious revising after Mercury goes direct. But since tying up loose ends is the domain of retrograde, this type of finalization might fly.
Can you repeat that?:
In our relationships, sometimes we gloss over things that pushed buttons at the time, but which we let slide. What seemed not worth the trouble may reveal itself as a major issue in need of our attention. The Mercury retrograde is a time for review when the underlying patterns come to light.
Back to the Drawing Board:
Some dreams and goals get lost in the hectic rushing around of daily life. The Mercury Retrograde period can be a rich time of reflection on those longings. This makes it a time for the soul to ponder its destiny. You might look over old journals, review your creative work, muse on serendipities of the past that have pointed you toward your spirit's calling. It can make the retrograde period a time of solidifying a sense of your personal story and where you're headed.
What does it mean in each different sign?:
The Mercury retrograde is shaped by the sign through which it is cast. For example, a Mercury retrograde in Cancer turns the mind toward things like family, home and the invisible emotional bonds that connect us. On the other hand, a Mercury retrograde in Aquarius gives it a different spin, with a review of group dynamics, the larger human community, all from a detached perspective.
Making the Most of Mercury Retrograde:
A major cause of stress at Mercury retrograde is frustration from mishaps, things breaking down, computers going black. But if we know it's cycling, this makes it feel less terminal. If things go pear-shaped, see what's there to see. Take a break from the usual routine.
Just observe and see what happens, and be open to the past returning for review. If it's coming back, there's likely something more to learn or release from it. This can be a good (and productive) time, in its own way.


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