Sunday, February 10, 2013

WHEN IS IT TIME TO TELL A FRIEND GOOD-BYE


So many times in life people wonder why someone acts or does something to them that makes no sense. Why someone suddenly starts to mistreat you or ignore you. Why a person is only around when there is no one else for them to call. Or when they need their ego stroked. Many wonder why someone in their life chooses to mistreat them even though they may do what they can with the limited resources they have to be all they can be for that person. Now when this happens, you sit and wonder wtf is going on. Why must we always hurt this way. What did I do to deserve someone acting like this. Many times a person will actually be so upset that they can not imagine a good reason to be happy at that moment. They question what to do next. Then that little voice inside them whispers...LET THEM GO!!. now if they listen to the voice is a entirely different story. But lets just cover when its time to let a friend or person in your life go for good. 
The answer to that is really easy actually. You should have at least heard if not also been taught the statement treat others how you want to be treated. which simply...if you are putting in 100 percent to the relationship no matter what type it is. then the other person needs to as well. they need to call you just like you call them. they need to text you like you text them. they need to talk to you not ignore you. cause they would not like it if you ignored them. but above all..you should be their equal. one giant red flag is when someone gets so big for their britches that they become so cocky and start treating their elders, their friends, hell anyone they know that does not kiss their ass. like they are beneath them. Well if you see that red flag, its time to stop drop and roll. stop being there friend. drop them like the piece of crap they are treating you like. and roll up and put away the welcome mat so that they know they are no longer welcome in your life. plain and simple. love yourself enough to want to be happy in every aspect of your life. if you miss old friends. attempt to contact them. if they are receptive to you reconnecting then great. if not..then know that at this time it is not in the cards. lets see..also if you have exes that are still in your life. and you have no children with them. ask yourself why are they in your life. now in some cases you were great friends before hand..so why not remain friends if the split was nice. but if you broke up because someone was a cheater, or psycho, or a abuser, or hell they stole money from you and your child, or had a bad tendency of assault and battery. then ask yourself why they are your friend. get as far away from that negative type stuff as you can. you can not master your future if you are a prisoner to your past. and if you have someone in your present that is from a negative part of your past..then you need to remove it like a cancer. cause it will sit there reminding you of what you went through. and every time something crappy happens. ta dah there they are again. Well lets see all the before mentioned examples can be applied to family as well. Now that brings me to the top..Current friends. honestly. If your gut says something is not right. IF your GUT says THEY ARE LYING  IF your GUT says They are being as fake as a spam mail claiming you won a billion dollars. hell IF your GUT says They are JUST USERS AND A CHAMELEON THAT USES AND LIES A LOT  then it is time to listen to your gut. 
STOP TRYING TO SEE THAT OUNCE OF GOOD IN THAT PERSON. REALIZE THAT YES EVERYONE MAY HAVE GOOD. BUT IT DOES NOT MEAN THEY ALL WILL EVER FIND IT. and it sure as hell is not your job to suffer at the hands of them. LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH TO REMEMBER THAT YOU DESERVE RESPECT, LOVE, AND HONESTY
well that is about it..love you, enjoy yourself, and remember when your gut says something is wrong. listen to it. cause its trying to tell you something that your eyes may not be able to see. 

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