Thursday, June 16, 2016
Allow me to speak on Trust, Respect, and Friendship
THIS IS WHAT TRUST MEANS
Truthfulness to those who confide in you
Respect the privacy of those that confide in you
Understand that breaking a trust is betrayal and karmically wrong
Silence yourself once you have been confided in for nothing shared is yours to spread
Trustworthy friendship is something that is priceless and once you lose that you have nothing
In life you will come across people that are wolves in sheep's clothing. who are trained professionals that know exactly how to break down your defenses just enough to make you give them trust. Sadly it is not all their fault. Because we as humans when we are broken or hurt we desire having someone to turn to. we want to believe that that person being kind to us. Is being honest is being truly trustworthy and that at no time will you ever have to feel more pain or sorrow than you currently do in what ever situation you are in. Sadly that is not always the case. Sometimes one of the worst things in life is that others will lull you into a security only to share your information with others. so that they can know the progress of a situation. Not realizing that what they have done is broken a level of trust that is not given freely.
I am disabled and have certain disabilities and I have a special needs child who wants to trust others but once the behavior of others starts to scare him. he shuts down and pulls away. he notices everything. this in life will keep him from something but at the same time will keep him safe from other things. my child lives by the trust definition. and if it is broken. then you have forsaken him and his kind.
Respect...What does that mean.
in life respect is earned they say. but in humanity sometimes one person must show it in order for another to give it back to them. If you have been respected and given a level of trust and respect and you choose to toss it aside like it is worthless then you and only you will deal with the repercussions of the loss of respect from your own actions. now will the repercussions be that someone betrays you. will it be that karma decided that all your terrors and fears finally come true. will it be that the respect that you chose not to give others will come home to roost harder and more devastating on your life than on the person that you chose not to respect. That is not another mortals choice to decide. It is up to the universe to decide. Sadly in some cases lack of respect towards others never come back on the one that deserves it in the form it should. it hurts those closest to them. and for that it is sad.
to each person the word friendship means something different. It's evident by the many different friendships in this world. by how people treat each other. how people use and mistreat each other then call each other friends. how others try to change people into who they feel someone should be in order for them to fit what they define a friend to them is. it is seen everyday in life people telling others what they believe should and should be weak, or strong characteristics. who they should and should not talk to. what type of parenting behaviors is right what you should do at what age. based on how that person does things. just so that a person fits into a cookie cutter mold with a group. but yet they say it's so that the children do not suffer. but not once have they asked the children if they are happy. if they children enjoy the lifestyle they have. if you asked Wednesday and Pugsley if they loved their life as Adams children or would they want to be cleavers kids some would assume they would want to be cleaver kids. but far from it. if you ask the one blonde girl in the Munsters if she wanted to be anything other than living with the Munsters. and people assumed she wanted to. but she never wanted to live anywhere but with Herman and Lilly. see to everyone that tries to change people to fit what you want a friend to be. have them talk to your type of people. send their kids to your type of locations, do what your kids do, and enjoy the same things as you. stop building clones of yourself. and understand something. FRIENDSHIP is about accepting the world is made up of different people. and ask yourself one thing. will you love your own children the same as you do now. if one day they turn out not to be a cookie cutter mold of you. will you force them to change or will you still love them as they are. hopefully you will love them as they are. be a friend to your friends and remember the world should be made up of uniqueness not clones. and being a friend means being trustworthy, honest, respectful and not changing others to fit some mold you want them to fit into. if you can not do that. then you should not be in there life.
so the end of my blog today is this... over the past couple weeks it has been hell for me and my son. people want to assume, change, define, lie, and even afterwards continue to assert their presence into things. I give those to goddess, but I also am walking away from anyone who can not be trustworthy, respectful and a good friend. for my child, my husband and I deserve the very best in life and goddess knows our soul.
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